You are not your thoughts. Your brain does what it does, it processes information, it does this without you, when you dream, when your thoughts wander, your brain is doing what it does just as your lungs do or your heart. Be the watcher of your thoughts just as you can be the watcher of your breathing. You can put your attention to anything your body- which includes your mind. Your body is experiencing and your mind is interpreting, with or without your attention. What we ex

I have a great aunt of 94 who has never been married, the other day she said to me that of course she has no first hand experience but as far as she could see the reason most marriages failed was because of boredom. "They say it's because of this or that reason, but I think people just get bored" was how she put it. I think she is probably right. In her ted talk Esther Perel reminds us that the important things we look for in long term relationships such as security and certa

How appreciative are you of what you have right now? Sometimes it is easy to stop noticing the small miracles around us all the time. Gratitude is the door through which life pours, being grateful and appreciative is a choice, a choice to open yourself up to seeing the world afresh every minute. Do you use the word 'if' or 'when' in the way you look at your life? for example if I had more money if I was married/ had a boyfriend/ wasn't in a relationship... if my mother/ fathe

If you have not seen this watch it immediately! Everything Brene Brown talks about is true, in my own life and with clients. The relationship of weakness and strength is much more than having the courage to ask for help. It is about being strong enough to embrace weakness and stand in the hard place and accept and embrace all that we are. Real weakness, real vulnerability, is something we are uncomfortable and struggle with, but shouldn't stop us from accepting ourselves as